The Church, Change, and Cookies That Crumble

“It takes an especially tough cookie to keep itself together whilst the others in the same packet are crumbling.”

This quote disturbed my whole day. After reading it, the wheels in my head began to turn, and all I could think about is this One God, Apostolic message. Not only am I willingly taking a stand for it, but I want to be a Cookie for Christ.

If It’s Not Broke, Then Don’t Try To Break It. Why is it that so many Christians are giving into compromise? If Acts 2:38 and holiness was good enough for my generation, then why should it change for the next. Well, some would say times have changed, and that things have evolved (this is true). However, the church does not need to evolve, because it was established back on the day of Pentecost. The church did not just come about, and neither will it just evolve into something unknown, or purposeless. The church will grow, it will be elevated, and it will most definitely move forward into what God has pre-destined for it. 

I’m Finding That More & More Churches Are Giving Up Sacred Principles, In Attempts To Become More Relevant.

Thus we have disco lights and smoke machines set up in the sanctuary. Did you know that the disco ball was created to mesmerize a crowd, and give off a hypnotic glow? I’m sorry but God does not need any help capturing the attention of His people, and these things are just flimsy replacements for His glory. If we as Christians are going to prevail in the end times, we need more of Jesus, not less. Compromises is when a person forfeits, or gives up something of great value in exchange for something of a lesser value, but why settle for less? It is the trick of the enemy to get us to believe that we should be a mediocre church, in a world that is so over the top. If this world is going to be extreme in their sin, I’m going to be more extreme in my Praise and Worship. I’m striving for a higher calling, not to be a Cookie That Crumbles.

Thank You From The Depths Of My Heart…

  

“The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. These persons have an appreciation, a sensitivity, and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness, and a deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen.”~ Elisabeth Kubler Ross

It’s Like Chicken Soup To My Soul

 

 

 

I believe in God.

I believe in love.

 I believe in writing.

I believe in self-improvement and character building.

I believe in singing.

I believe in hats and that everyone should own at least one.

 I believe in wearing  High Heels. 

I believe in People, if they are worthy of God’s Love and attention, then why not mines.

I believe in taking pictures, for a 1000 memories can live in just one.

I believe in aromatherapy… Perfume, Lotion, and fruity Lip Glosses is a must.

 I believe the most beautiful thing a Woman can wear is a smile.

I believe that anyone can look good in a nice pair of shades.

I believe in butterflies, their existence starts out rough, but they have a beautiful ending.

I believe in prayer.

I believe in reading 

I believe that beauty comes from within and works its way out.

I believe that music is a gift for the soul.

 I believe in Confidence.

I believe in Chocolate.

I believe in the Eiffel Tower and that one day we will meet and have a secret rendezvous (Paris is my dream vacation).

I believe in the French language and that it was made for me to listen to, and not learn. Ohh La La!

I believe in bedtime stories.

I believe that the smallest things in life are the most confound.

I believe in Pink and I believe in laughter, it keeps me alive…

And I believe in HEAVEN.

Imagine This…

 

“Imagine yourself as a living house. God comes in to rebuild that house. At first, perhaps, you can understand what He is doing. He is getting the drains right and stopping the leaks in the roof and so on; you knew that those jobs needed doing and so you are not surprised. But presently He starts knocking the house about in a way that hurts abominably and does not seem to make any sense. What on earth is He up to? The explanation is that He is building quite a different house from the one you thought of. He’s throwing up a new wing here, putting an extra floor there, running up towers, making courtyards. You thought you were being made into a decent little cottage: but He is building a palace. He intends to come and live in it Himself.”

~ C. S. Lewis (Mere Christianity)

I Woke Up With America On My Mind…

God Who gave us life, gave us liberty. And can the liberties of a nation be thought secure when we have removed their only firm basis, a conviction in the minds of the people that these liberties are of the Gift of God? ~ Thomas Jefferson, Third U.S President and Author of The Declaration of Independence

 

 

 

I woke up this morning with America on my mind. Perhaps because my love for this land runs deep. As I sort through my feelings of ambivalence and disappointment, I think of ways to impact our world and make a positive change. It’s troubling to see how far our Nation has strayed. United States of America was founded upon Godly principles, and Biblical standard used to be taught in the schools. Now the mention of God is a mere ritual to some, and others are doing their best to exclude Him from everything. Our by-laws, everything our Founding Fathers fought  for are being hidden in the shadows of time. This is where our Nation fails… 

 

Trying to remove G-O-D from the U-S-A is like removing a tree from its roots. I thank God for men like Thomas Jefferson who spoke of Christ and reinforced him as this Country’s foundation. I believe that somewhere along the line, these great patriots touched the throne of God, and in return, The Lord extended his grace to America. My prayer is that God continues to bless, guide, and protect us as a Nation. May his hand be upon our Leaders and let them be granted with the back-bone, and faith needed to turn our country around. I’m going to leave you with this quote from Benjamin Franklin, Signer of Declaration of Independence.

 “I have lived, Sir, a long time and the longer I live, the more convincing proofs I see of this truth — that God governs in the affairs of men. And if a sparrow cannot fall to the ground without his notice, is it probable that an empire can rise without his aid? We have been assured, Sir, in the sacred writings that “except the Lord build they labor in vain that build it.” I firmly believe this; and I also believe that without his concurring aid we shall succeed in this political building no better than the Builders of Babel”. – Benjamin Franklin

The Aged Stone

 

1 Corinthians 13:11 When I was a child, I spoke as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a wo(man), I put away childish things.

 

This scripture speaks volumes.

 

In order for us to move Forward… To Grow… To step into a place of EXCELLENCE, we have to be willing to put away some things. I have come to realize that some of the smallest, pettiest, things that we hold on to, can hinder our growth, and make it next to impossible for God to complete his work in us.

 

There came a time when I had to ask myself, “Is it worth it?” Is it worth sacrificing my goals? Is it worth forfeiting God’s perfect plan for my life?

 

Nothing is that valuable…  

My Hopes, My Dreams, Everything, even my Disappointments, I give them to you Lord, so that I can be used for your glory. ~ The Aged Stone

 

 

 

Endless Love

  

Humpty Dumpty sat on a wall,

 

Humpty Dumpty had a great fall.

 

All the king’s horses and all the king’s men

 

Couldn’t put Humpty back together again.

 

“Thank you so much Sis, this is just what I needed”, were my words as I disconnected the phone. I had the opportunity to chit-chat with a precious elder in my church. It was one of those priceless talks, the kind that offers both encouragement and challenges your thinking. By the end of our conversation, we came to this conclusion, that no matter what comes our way, we vow to serve God. In this day and age, there seems to be so many Christians, young and old, who are falling by the way side. A lot of them have adopted the Humpty Dumpty mentality. After suffering a big fall, they feel that it is impossible to rise again. However, this is not true, his grace is sufficient; and contrary to what the nursery rhyme says, I know someone who can put you back together again- and that’s Jesus. It’s hard for me to grasp the concept of why a person would resort to walking out on God. Back in 1999, I made my way through those church doors and haven’t turned back since. In my mind, there is no exit door. This does not mean that I have not struggled or been tempted. There were times I have been down, discouraged, full of doubt and fear. However, in my lowest state, I never, ever, decided to throw in the towel or give up on God. Honestly, I’m not made of a rare steel (even though I can be stubborn). And I don’t think that I am better than the next person. However, I do believe that God has placed something deep down inside of me, that no man can take away-and that’s Love. 

  

John 6:66 At this point many of his disciples turned away and deserted him.  Then Jesus turned to the Twelve and asked, “Are you also going to leave?”

 

 Years ago, I had a co-worker that was dying from Cancer. And throughout the process, his wife took on the full responsibility of nursing and caring for him. Over a period of time his condition worsened and he completely lost mobility in his legs. This multiplied her nursing duties exponentially and it became very strenuous on her. Astonishingly, she never complained, and giving up was not in her vocabulary. This woman was able to maintain a family, care for her dying husband, and still keep her wits about her. I was absolutely fascinated by her strength. So one day I asked her, “How do you do it?” I wanted to know how she could go on, day after day, with a smile on her face and praise in her heart. And that’s when she made such a simple, yet profound statement. She said to me, “It’s called the act of love”. She went further to explain that there were many times when she had become tired and weary, but it was unconditional love that kept her there. And I believe that’s where I stand with God. There are times when this journey gets tough. I have had some things come my way that I did not understand, but I had to learn to trust him. It is the wise man or woman who draws closer to God, when life gets hard. I make it a point to embrace him more than ever, because I know that in due time, his Love will prevail. I want to encourage every person to stand firm and trust in him. And most importantly never give up on serving The Lord. Make him your Endless Love.

 

“For I am persuaded, that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor powers, nor things present, nor things to come, Nor height, nor depth, nor any other creature, shall be able to separate us from the love of God…”

 

Purpose goes way beyond any one particular calling, gift or talent.

Living with purpose is to walk in complete submission to the Spirit of God.

Jesus Christ is a prime example.

The bible says, that he came to seek and to save the lost (The Cross).

And every single day of his life was made up the components of his purpose.

He seized every waking moment, leading the way and setting an example He healed the sick, raised the dead and, preached to the self-righteous. 

It is inevitable that we will discover our purpose, when aligning our lives up with Christ. My moto for 2010 is, “Learning how to walk the walk”.~ EMS

 

 

The Truth,The Truth! Can You Handle The Truth?

 

 Blossoming Fig

It’s because of God’s precious Truth that I stand today. Personally, I am striving to be a phenomenal woman. My goal is to live every moment to the fullest, not sweat the small stuff and to lead a purpose driven life. Each day I work on building my character, because it is more important than obtaining beauty, wealth or fame. God has blessed every area of my life, and it is an honor to serve him. I am a true testimony of what God’s love can do. However, none of this matters if I fail to spread the Word…  

 

At Last I Can Feel My Savior Drawing Near!

 

The spirit of the end time is weighing upon my heart so heavy. Today, as I walked through my normal routine, things just did not seem the same. I saw the faces of people who I see daily, and it was as if I were seeing them all for the first time. I watched as they went on merrily about their day in somewhat of a lackadaisical state. And I could not help but wonder about where they were going to spend eternity. With conviction pricking my heart and emotions surging through me, I wanted to stand on my office chair and yell,“Wake up people… Jesus is coming back!”, but I knew that this type of outburst would have only gotten me a few stares and some wierded out side glances. Never the less, he is coming back, and it is our privilege as Christians to spread the word. One of my favorite parables in the bible is the one about the fig tree. (Mark 11:12) When Jesus and The Disciples were traveling from Bethany, they came upon a fig tree. The bible says that, from a far off Jesus saw that the tree had leaves. Generally, this is a sign that fruit has been produced and is in the process of ripening. But, when he got up closer, he found that it had no fruit. According to scripture, it was not the season for figs yet, but because the tree bore signs of having fruit, God still came looking for life/ productivity. As Christians, we are to be instant in season and out of season. If the Lord passed through your church, would he find fruit on your tree or would it be bare? Spiritually, are you reproducing in the kingdom, or are you barren. God ended up cursing that tree and no man could ever eat fruit from it again.  

 

“I’m gonna shout for joy cause he set me free, sing and dance he delivered me, sing my praise to the King of Kings…”

 

As our church Praise Team sang this song of victory, I witnessed a woman receive the baptism of the Holy Ghost, with the evidence of speaking in tongues. She didn’t need a choir member, or an usher to show her the way. She wept, danced and praised her way to the front of the church. There was a certain sound to her worship, and it reminded me of being on the foreign mission field, a place where the people are so hungry and receptive to the Spirit. We always have Holy Ghost impacted services, but I will never forget that morning. It blessed my soul, with a glimpse of hope. We don’t have to fly across the Pacific Ocean to have revival, but it is happening right here at our local assembly. God is the same no matter what part of the globe you are residing in. 2 Chronicles 7:14, states, ” If my people, which are called by my name, shall  humble themselves, and pray, and seek my face, and turn from their wicked ways; then will I  hear from heaven, and will forgive their sin, and will heal their land.”  I believe that we are only seeing bits and pieces of what God wants to do. He desires to bless his people to such a great magnitude, but we are going to have to humble ourselves. It is apparent that we are living in what the Bible describes as the end times. Look out the window, the signs are lining up with the Word of God. At last, I can feel my Savior drawing near! And I want to be a part of what he is doing! 

Shameless Identity

 

 

Why is it that you don’t see your worth?

Have you listened to the world and let it fill your ears?

I am the One who rules,

I am the One who dries tears.

I have created the earth and the beauty in it,

Placing you at the very center so that life itself can extract what it needs to be complete and radiant.

*singing* I’m the maker of each moment, God of all your hope and freedom.

From Adonai to Yahweh, I am all that you need.

When my blood touched this earth, it set many captives free.

I am sculpting you into a piece that is priceless and rare.

All of your scars and imperfections are no longer there.

Your existence is worth more than what your past speaks,

Now bearing the reflection of Christ and eternity.

So lift up your head, it should not always hang down.

My beautiful daughter it was made for a crown.~EMS 

I Was Not Built to Break (Strive)

 

 

 

 At my weakest moments we come face to face, my strength. Oh what a foundation!

Looking back through the years, you have always been there for me.

The dark nights have brought us closer.

When the cares of life weigh so heavy upon my shoulders.

You pick me up a remind me to look to the sky.

With God, faith, and you in my stride, I have no choice but move to forward.

There are times that I can’t comprehend the days set before me

But somehow, I keep walking into my Destiny.

Remaining confident in this one thing,

That God has begun a good work in me, and he will carry it out until the end.

And contrary to what the enemy of my soul says, I hold on to my hope, my future,

my dreams…

~EMS

Beauty Tips

 

 

For attractive lips,
Speak words of kindness.

 

For lovely eyes,
Seek out the good in people.

 

For a slim figure,
Share your food with the hungry.

 

For beautiful hair,
Let a child run his or her fingers through it once a day.

 

For poise,
Walk with the knowledge you’ll never walk alone.

 

People, even more than things, have to be restored,
renewed, revived, reclaimed and redeemed;
Never throw out anybody.

 

Remember, if you ever need a helping hand,
you’ll find one at the end of your arm.

 

As you grow older you will discover that you have two hands;
one for helping yourself,
the other for helping others.

An Ornament of Grace

Spoken Word: This is one of my more passionate writings. In it I talk about God molding and making me into the Women he wants me to be, and not what society proposes…

 

 

Look At Me

Look Long, and Look Deep.

Take in all that the eyes can behold

And maybe, just maybe, you’ll see my soul

I’m being stripped of my identity by society

And it’s getting more and more difficult explain the simple essence of me

Surrounded by feminism…

Shameless of the rebellion and blind to the deceit

They stand bound and not free

Diving head first into the mirrors of masculinity

Women are no longer the weaker vessels

From Beauty to Ashes…

Forfeiting your Glory each time that you raise the scissors to your hair

And instead of taking liberty the way that God has intended

You look for ways to justify, why it’s all right to look and act like a guy.

What have we become?

And what are we passing down for the next generation to see?

No longer keepers of our homes like in Proverbs 31 and 15

I wonder, is this what God had in mind, when he extracted that rib from Adam’s side?

A woman doing her best to stand strong *fist raised*

A woman doing her best to compete, with the very one who she was created to meet

Somewhere along the line we forgot the ordinances of The King.

So Lord, I’m praying for you to Look at me,

Look Long, and Look Deep.

Expand the depths of my soul

Mold me into a Virtuous Woman, one who is Meek, and worth more than Gold.

Kind, Loving, and Gentle

An Ornament of Grace…

Submissively kneeling at my Saviour’s feet

Weakness opens the door for him to show us his strength.

Strength to stand in the face of compromise.

Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain,

But a Woman who fears the LORD, She shall be praised.

I have found favor in the sight of my King

And now I know what it is to walk in Victory… As a Woman

~EMS

  

 

 First I would to give honor to God, who is the head of my life! And then I would like to thank Melissa @ http://missmelissamorris.blogspot.com/ who nominated me for this award. Thanks you’re the best! In order to accept this award whole-heartedly, I must share 7 things that people may not know about me.

  

 

7 Things You May not Know About Me

 

 

1. I get nervous every time that I sing a solo. Yes, Miss calm, and collected gets butterflies in her stomach. Once I get up there, and start singing I’m fine… Thank The Lord! I haven’t been able to diagnose the problem thoroughly, but it is definitely there because this body of mine tells me so. Every time that I get ready to go on stage, my throat gets as dry as last years corn husks. So the next time that I’m getting ready to sing, and you see me popping gum, or chewing candy, please know that I am trying to get my salivary glands pumping.

 

2. I love taking notes! I could be reading a book or having a conversation, if I come across something profound (in my eyes) I will write it down or save it in my phone. I know that these tiny pieces of wisdom could be put to use someday. It’s really helpful when I need ideas for music, poetry or my next blog entry.

 

3. I have a part-time job working for Mac Cosmetics! Just Kidding! Well, that’s how I look when my face turns red from blushing. It doesn’t matter I could be happy, sad, mad or embarrassed, I have a shade of pink for every mood. And for the record I don’t wear make-up.

 

4. I love to sing in my car while driving! It is definitely an art to me. It took me some time to realize that there are other people on the road with me;) If I could get a dollar for every person that has caught me in the act, I would be richer than Oprah. 

 

5. I have a fear of heights (acrophobia). You will not catch me on the edge of any open space with more than a 20 foot drop, and that’s with very, very, secure railing.  

 

6. I absolutely love the French language. The way it sounds, and how each syllable flows through the voice box with such smoothness. I’m praying for a husband who is tall, dark, handsome, and can speak French. *Oui*

 

7. I don’t eat Beef or Pork. It’s been about ten years, since I’ve picked up a piece of bacon or chowed down on a T- bone steak. No I’m not trying to abide by The Old Testament Dietary Laws. It’s strictly my personal choice.

 

The Beauty of A Woman

 

 

The beauty of a woman

isn’t in the clothes she wears,

The figure that she carries,

or the way she combs her hair.

The beauty of a woman

must be seen from in her eyes;

Because that’s the doorway to her heart,

the place where love resides.

The beauty of a Woman

isn’t in a facial mole;

But true beauty in a woman,

is reflected by her soul.

It’s the caring that she cares to give,

the passion that she shows;

And the beauty of a woman

with passing years only grows.

Written by Ardem

Until God Makes You Whole

Proverbs 18:14 The spirit of a man will sustain his infirmity; But a wounded spirit who can bear?

 

 

We can endure times of intense sickness and still have a good attitude, but no one can handle a wounded spirit. When we have been genuinely hurt or offended it is important that we allow ourselves to go through the proper healing process. If not, we are more susceptible to becoming angry, bitter, resentful or even hateful towards those who have hurt us. The tricky thing is that it is impossible to isolate these types of emotions to the areas of hurt. It always goes into other areas of our lives and we end up hurting the ones we love.

 

Four Commonly Used Ways to Deal with Hurt

1. Hate- Being resentful and hating those that have hurt us.

2. Violence- Getting even or fighting.

3. Hardness- Building walls between you and those that have hurt you.

4. Deception- “I’m fine, they don’t hurt me.”

 

The truth is that there is only one thing that you can use unlimited amounts of that will help heal the wounds and that is forgiveness.~ Bro Shatwell

 

Growing up in a dysfunctional family, I had my share of trials. I experienced first hand, the hurt that these dynamics can bring. When I stepped into the church house as an adult, I didn’t know how to lay it all down. I got baptized in his name and came up out of that water sin free. The unfortunate part to that story is that I carried some of my past issues (emotional baggage) right back out the water. I never allowed myself to become bitter or mad at the world, but I did learn how to build walls against those who hurt me. At the time, I had no idea that these so-called defense mechanisms would inevitably lead me down a dead-end road. The very same walls that I constructed to keep out the hurt, also kept out the love (God’s Love). When it comes to matters of the heart/spirit, The Lord will not just step in and take over, he has to be invited. I sat in church services for years without experiencing the proper healing that my spirit needed. I was born again and had reaped many victories, but I did not have absolute victory. And that is not how I wanted to live; I wanted to become a victor, instead of remaining a victim to my past. I was at this point in my life, when a man by the name of Rev David Shatwell came along and preached a message titled, The Tragedy of a Wounded Spirit.”  This sermon was such a blessing to my life, and it definitely helped me through the healing process. 

 

 

Four Steps of Forgiveness:

1. Forgive and release those that have hurt you. Give it to God and don’t pick it back up. Your hurt is real but he is the only one who can handle it.

2. Ask God to forgive them for what they have done to you (Luke 6:28). “Don’t make them pay for what they have done”. Jesus said, ”Father, forgive them; they know not what they do.” Completely release them from their debt to you. (That step can be hard!) 

3. Forgive yourself for all the wrong that you have done. All of the things that you felt you could have stopped. (That step can be even harder!) 

4. Forgive God for things that have happened. There are things that you felt he could   have stopped because he is God.

 

I made it a point to thoroughly engage myself in the process. I prayed, fasted, and sought God earnestly until I got my spirit right. James 4:8 states, “Draw near to God and He will draw  near to you…” It’s amazing how the Lord came in like a flood and completely blessed my life. Now I can testify and say, that not only has God healed my broken spirit, but also, he has made me whole. He removed every self remedy and spiritual bandage that had been covering my heart, and got deep within to repair the wounds. Jesus did all of that for me, and he will do the same for you. 

 
 

Includes Principles extracted from sermon preached by Bro Shatwell, “The Tragedy of a Wounded Spirit”. Please see Video/ Audio section to listen for free.

Tragedy of a Wounded Spirit Part I- Rev. David Shatwell

 

All My Single Ladies! (Pick Your Heads Up)

Single, Lonely, Depressed? Have you suffered from any of these symptoms because of your marital status? When was the last time that you had a complete emotional meltdown? Does it seem like no one cares? If you answered yes to any of these questions or have found yourself in the same situations, then this is the place for you.  

 

  

  
 
 

Cinderella

Ever since I was a young girl, I could remember fantasizing about that day when I wouldwalk down the aisle. In this dream, I am the bride to be, all dolled up with a foofy hairdo and sparkly slippers. My gown is uniquely tailored, with a train long enough to wrap around the borders of Alaska. There are several Bride’s maids frantically scattered about, attending to my every need. I can just hear them now, “Where is her tiara?” and “Did anyone pick up her veil from the Dry Cleaners?” The sanctuary is elegantly decorated with fresh flowers, candles, and lights all around. There is a hint of Jasmine dancing about in the air. All of my friends and family are waiting for the marriage ceremony to start when suddenly; the cracking sound of the wedding march begins… Here Comes The Bride! Exciting isn’t it? In fact, I would love for this fantasy to one day become my reality. But if it doesn’t, I am still going to live my life. 

 

It Time to Settle Some Things

Tick, Tock, Tick, Tock… This is your biological clock! I have heard just about every piece of advice, there is for a Single Woman: “You poor thing keep the faith, God will send him soon,” exclaimed this precious woman of faith. “Girrrrrrl, you’ve been in church this long, and still haven’t found you a husband!” My all time favorite is“What are you waiting for? The Rapture is going to take place and you’re still going to be single!” I have heard everything from, “you’re too picky” to he’s not good enough for you.” And I am sure that my Family, Peer and Elders all had good intentions when speaking these voluntary words of wisdom. However, if I took half of the counsel dropped on my doorstep, I would be one messed up Sista, or even worse married to a man who was not right for me. I made a vow to never let people, life, or circumstances pressure me into believing that I have to hurry up and get married. Jeremiah 29:11 says, “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the  LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”  He did not make a mistake when he wrote this chapter for my life entitled, Single. And neither did he error, when he created one for you. Acceptance is your first step to victory. Therefore, Ladies start thanking him for your singleness and watch the miracles begin to unfold!

 
   

Fantasy-  (fan’te-se, -ze) n.  An imagined event or sequence of mental images, such as a daydream, usually fulfilling a wish or psychological need.

  

 I know Single Women, who live on the planet of fantasy. They sit and dream about the day when a knight in shining will come and sweep them off their feet. In addition, they have every detail of their future lives already planned out. This includes Holidays, Weddings, Bridal Showers, Baby Showers and even the blue prints to their first house. The only thing missing is the actual man. If you are a healthy Venusian, these kinds of thoughts probably enter your mind periodically and there is nothing wrong with that. It becomes problematic when these types of fantasies consume your thoughts and dictate your actions daily. These woolgatherers carry on in conversation, as if they are one week away from jumping the broom, when they are not even in a relationship? It is important that we keep a hold on to reality because if we do not it will lead us down the road of false hopes and expectations. (Fantasy+Expectation= Drama) A Note to The Drama Queens: Just because  life or relationships do not work out the way that you plan, it doesn’t give you the right to turn into an emotional wreck. Throwing temper tantrums and performing as if you are auditioning for a Broadway Play is not acceptable. This behavior probably worked at the age of two. However, this will not fly at the blossoming ages of 20, 30, or 40. Slipping into Chronic Depression is not the answer- Jesus is. None of these emotional deficits will attract a man, but it will send all the right ones running for the border. It is wise that we put our hope and trust, in reality-based situations.

 

“I am blessed to say that God has placed some wonderful people in my path and just like the icing on top of a cake, they add a touch sweetness to my life, but they are not the source of my happiness- God is.” 

 

These last few years have been the best years of my Single Life; that is because I have learned to take responsibility for my own happiness. I am blessed to say that God has placed some wonderful people in my path and just like the icing on top of a cake, they add a touch sweetness to my life, but they are not the source of my happiness- God is. People have asked me, “How do you maintain a happy life as a Single Woman?” And my answer to that question is, to stay connected with The Lover of Your Soul. There is nothing like spending quality time with God. Often time Woman believe that they will discover happiness and fulfillment in a relationship. When really, if you are not feeling like Mary Poppins now, you will not be then. The bible says that in his presence is the fullness of joy. If you are in a constant state of sadness and depression then you haven’t been spending enough time with Jesus. For the next 24 hours, I want you to pretend that you are married to The Lord. In the morning before rushing off to work, take the time out just to say I love you. On your lunch break, call him up (in prayer) just to let him know that you are thinking about him. Go throughout your day like this and watch the difference it makes. I guarantee that you will be smiling in no time!

  

 ” Do whatever it takes to make your present life worth living. It is time to pick your heads up and start walking in the destiny that God has for you.” 

 

To groom, or not to groom, that is the question? I have seen too many Single Women who have lost their motivation. They don’t put much effort into their personal upkeep, and you can forget about setting goals, or participating in leisure time activities. This particular sect of Single Ladies would prefer to stay at home, look frumpy, and mope about their situation. It would take a Swat Team to break them out of their barricade of Haagen Dazs and Francine Rivers Novels. Life is too short and you only get one chance to be Soltera. My advice to you, is to live your Single life to the fullest. Go out and do all the things that you have wanted to do. Travel, start your own business, write a book, go back to school. Kiss all of those bad hair days, and bummie clothes goodbye.  Do whatever it takes to make your present life worth living. It is time to pick your heads up and start walking in the destiny that God has for you. You never know, while you are out conquering the world, you may just run into your prince charming.

 

 

 

“And the day came when the risk it took to remain tightly closed in a bud, was more painful than the risk it took to bloom… This is the element of freedom.” ~A. Keys

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